newsletters & Thoughts
The rescue you don’t need
You see someone struggling and say, “that’s OK, let me take care of it.” Someone from your…
Are you trapped by the middle?
There I was in 2019, sweating through all of the things I thought I needed to start…
What Are You Willing To Say?
One of the most common challenges that clients bring into coaching work is communicating with others. Specifically,…
Give yourself an “a”
When you go to work, there are usually 2 people involved – the person trying (you), and…
The dream before the team
How do we design and build a team that’s based on a vision or dream? Can we shift from the default stance of a “team” being a group reporting to a single person? As a real team, what is your purpose for existence?
A foot on the gas, a foot on the brake
Change is hard, there’s no way around it. It’s hard to change eating and exercise habits, and it’s hard to change ingrained, learned & rewarded behavior at a company or within a team where those behavioral norms are the only thing people know.
Are you in a standoff?
Are you in a standoff with a coworker and having a hard time resolving a conflict? What can you do to help?
Fighting “The Drift”
How can we keep from relapsing after we make changes in habits, moving towards goals we want? It’s usually not an abrupt relapse, but slow and barely noticeable. What are some things we can do to notice and protect ourselves from “the drift”?
What Could Better Be?
We end our calendar years often thinking about alllll of the things that could be better, and then make a bunch of goals for the new year. I often hear from leaders that they “just want to be the best leader they can be.” “Best” is elusive, mainly because we haven’t spent much time thinking about how “better” could get us there. A slight reframe helps us look deeper and reflect on what could better be?
Bring Balance Back
We need balance in life and work. We need it to help us lead, to help us with priorities, time management, and being adaptable. Here are some suggestions to bring more kinkou into our lives.
The pressure of practice
There’s a certain pressure when it comes to practicing something new or difficult. How can we change our view of it to a healthy one and enjoy it again?
31 flavors of micromanagement
There are many different forms of micromanagement. As leaders and members of teams how can we can we boost our self-awareness, be less controlling and demonstrate trust?
Priorities Are A Crutch
The word “priority” was introduced into the English language in the 1400’s. It was a singular. It meant the very first, or “prior” thing. It stayed singular for 500 years. What pushes us to pluralize our #1 thing, and potentially hide behind priorities?
Feeling Crispy
The term “burnout” has been around since the 1970’s, but it seems to be talked about more and more recently. How can we heal from burnout?
The Inside Job
How can we understand what’s going on with us enough to do the necessary work?
Control Is All About Me
How does control show up for you and are you ok with it?
A Sponge And A Brick
How can we balance creating healthy boundaries with having empathy?
Imposters Unite!
How can we embrace “imposter syndrome” as a signal of growth and learn from it while supporting our teams?
Not My Job
Why is it important to promote collaboration to create productive and fulfilling workplaces, especially when the professional world is uncertain and roles are becoming more defined?
Obstacles? We’re Ready For You…
Why is it so hard to overcome the obstacles that stand between us and our goals? How can we get there?
Ice Cold Butter On Toast
How can we make our approach warmer and more palatable to those around us?
I’m A Worrier
How can we leverage our weaknesses and turn them into strengths?
Meh…
Feeling “meh” and not sure why? How can noticing this feeling help us?
Many Forms Of Messy
How can we let go of our idea of “perfection” and free up our mind for new possibilities?
Doing Hard Things
How does doing hard things now pay off later?
Freely And Easily
How can we discover our own “Native Genius” and that of our teams?
Agency Of One
How can we be better agents for ourselves?
all the questions
What causes us to stop asking questions in our professional lives?
bring the light
“However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light.”
it’s all invented
Being in a state of transition from “what was” to “what is” can naturally bring up anticipation around “not knowing” and an anchoring feeling of nostalgia.
remember your fans
We all have fans. Every one of us.
recovery
We tend not to think we need to recover from our day-to-day professional work, but we do.
direction vs. destination
“You only need to know the direction, not the destination. The direction is enough to make the next choice.”
go slow to go fast
Purposely slowing down, helps to calm ourselves, counterbalance, relax, and repair, which prepares us to do better things faster in the long run.
challenges are gifts
“If you don’t do what’s important today, you’re robbing yourself of the gratitude you’ll feel tomorrow.”
